Seek and Save
June 2001 by Asher Intrater
Our relationship with God had been marred. Yeshua came
on behalf of God to repair and restore that relationship. He took the
initiative to redeem us and salvage something good out of our lives.
"The Son of Man came to seek and to save that
which was lost." Repairing our relationship with God and redeeming
the value of our lives is part and parcel of the same mission, since our
value is tied up with our relationship with God. Yeshua gave us the
"seek and save" model of relationships. As believers in Yeshua,
we have a parallel mission in our relationships with others. We are to
extend his work of seeking out other people and redeeming their worth by a
restorative relationship with us. We are His representatives.
In other words we are to seek out people and bring out
the good in them. Of course this "seek and save" model is
appropriate for evangelism, but in this article I want to emphasize its
approach in dealing with close friends and family members.
1. Seek Out
Yeshua took the initiative in seeking us out when He
descended from heaven. We in turn must take the initiative when there are
personal or relational problems with those close to us. We must seek out
opportunities to spend time with them. We must seek out a friend or loved
one with the purpose to bring out the good in them and to redeem God's
purpose in their lives.
2. Spend Time
There can be no redemptive relationship without
investing time. Our lives are basically one long opportunity to invest in
others. Yeshua came to earth and lived here. He spent time among us. He
invited His disciples to live with Him. We can't just force opportunities
to take place. We must be available for the time that our loved one
desires to talk. We must be around when the questions arise.
3. Listen (with Discernment)
We must not be too quick to present answers before we
have really heard the person. The solution is not in simply applying
principles and programs. Each person has the mystery of faith within them.
We are looking for an invisible reaction between them and God, rather than
looking for them to do what we say. We must listen for spiritual
discernment as to how God is dealing with them. It is primarily an
independent reaction between them and God, rather than between them and
us. We need to understand them. We need to have faith in the supernatural
process of God taking place in their life.
4. Ask and Offer
Before offering advice, we should ask for access. A
question such as, "What can I do for you?" or "Is there
anything I can do to help?" or "How can I pray for you on this
matter?" might be appropriate. They are the captain of their own
life, not you. Yeshua even asked blind Bartimaeus, "What do you want
Me to do for you? Luke 18:41)" Even though the question might seem
obvious to you, the idea is to let the solution spring out of the heart of
the other person. We are both respecting their authority over their own
lives, as well as coaching them into coming up with the solution on their
5. Lift Up and Build Up
We are always looking to edify the other person. The
goal is to help that person come into his or her destiny, not to show them
how much we know. We can build the person up by speaking words of
encouragement. We can lift the person up by serving them in a practical
chore or duty. Sometimes we speak words of strong correction, but it must
be done in a tone of love, where the person is fully convinced of your
intention to help him.
6. Radiate God's Love
People were healed just by touching Yeshua's garments.
In the midst of revival, the sick were healed as Peter's shadow passed by
them. We need to pray enough for the individual, that when we are with
them, the spiritual presence of God flows out from us. We must radiate
acceptance, not criticism. This is something deeper than words. It is a
heart attitude. A gentle touch on the hand can transmit inner healing. We
have an unspoken power within us that is bathing them with faith.
7. See Them in Victory
Part of faith is to see what is not seen. We must see
the potential in the other person coming to fruition. We see them as
healed and holy, as joyful and free, as fulfilling their destiny in God.
We see them with the eye of faith breaking through into new dimensions of
spiritual and moral victory.
This is the eye of God.
Hebrews 12:2: "Looking unto Yeshua, the author and finisher of
our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross,
despising the shame...."
In our redeeming relationships with others, we absorb
their hurts and problems. They react against us at the very time we are to
be the instruments of God's healing in their lives. In this way we follow
Yeshua's example on the cross. Their negative reactions to us, when it is
accompanied by a faith-forgiveness response on our part, is part of the
We are bringing the gospel into their lives by a living
example. The joy that we envision is our relationship with them after they
are set free and redeemed. We will have the joy of seeing someone we love
fulfilling their destiny before God. Their joy will be our joy. It is
worth the pain.