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Healing Father Wounds

written by Asher Intrater
October 20, 2017

The Ten Commandments mention parental relationships two times; once positive and once negative. No parents were perfectly good or perfectly bad. Whether the influence was 99% in one direction or 1% in the other, in every generational relationship, there are good things to receive and bad things to reject.

פוקד עוון אבות על בנים

Deuteronomy 5:8 – visiting the sis of the fathers on the sons…

God does not punish us for our parents’ wrongdoings. However, the result of our parents’ lacks and wrongs does have a great influence on us. We have to forgive them and remove the negative influence from our memories, souls and behavior. Sometimes a person unconsciously repeats the same bad actions of his parents; or sometimes over-reacts in just the opposite way; which is still in effect, letting that influence dominate us. Some fathers were abusive; some were absent. 

כבד את אביך ואת אמך

Deuteronomy 5:15 – honor you father and your mother…

When we honor someone, we place ourselves in a position to receive good things from them. When we honor our parents, we receive the good spiritual inheritance and qualities that they had to pass on to us. Honor goes up; and blessing comes down.

We have to come to peace with our parents’ “inheritance” and influence in our lives. I recently came across an old photo of my parents, when they were the age that my children are now. When I saw it, I experienced an inner release and freedom. It was as if I was finally totally at peace and in line with all who my parents are.

There is a process that many of us go through. At each age of our children’s lives, we understand our parents’ perspective of their relationship with us when we were that age. This gives us a “second chance,” as it were, to repent, be set free and receive blessing.

This week, we had a time of discussion and prayer with the men on our team in which we realized that many of the issues we seem to be struggling with in the ministry organization, the congregations, and our decision making processes, had nothing to do with what seemed to be the obvious issue. It all had to do with one another’s relationships with our dads. 

The responses of each one of us were not appropriate or proportionate to the issue we were dealing with. In order to become the person God has made us to be, to fulfill our destiny, and to bear much fruit in our lives, we must be healed of parental wounds, forgive them of their wrongs, and receive their good qualities.

Asher serves as president of Tikkun Global family of ministries and congregations, dedicated to the dual restoration of Israel and the Church. He is founder of the Revive Israel five-fold ministry team, and oversees both Ahavat Yeshua and Tiferet Yeshua congregations in Israel.

He and his wife Betty share a passion for personal prayer and devotion, local evangelism and discipleship in Hebrew, and unity of the Body of believers worldwide.

Asher was raised in a conservative Jewish home and holds degrees from Harvard University, Baltimore Hebrew College and Messiah Biblical Institute. He has authored numerous books, tracts and articles.

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